I know I am posting this early…but I want to build the habit now….plus I need to have time to decide how I will handle posting late or ahem…missing a day.
I love my boy. I don't get the chance to have him hold still very often for pictures. Heck, I didn't even ask him to change or brush his mop of hair because I didn't want to lose the chance to catch him at this age. 10 ½. The edge between kid and something more.
It's a challenging age. He is in 5th grade. I can still go in and talk to his teachers. I can still try to teach him that just because you did your homework….it doesn't count unless you turn it in. I can try to help him quit procrastinating and forgetting long term-heavily weighted assignments. But I can see the future….I can't do anything to help him next year. With 7 teachers, he has to be organized and personally responsible. But I'm at a loss for how to help him do that.
I don't ever remember my parents being involved in my school, but I was self motivated….and a flake. I had stress out moments where I realized I couldn't remember something and couldn't find my notes. I have an actual documented memory problem…Although I didn't know it at the time. I remember the panic as I couldn't remember which locker was mine…or what class was next….and this was after going to class for months!
I couldn't understand why everyone else had it so easy and could remember everything. But that fear of having people know that I couldn't remember names, people etc was the motivator for me….I worked so hard so that nobody would know I was broken. I never even told my parents. I just looked like a flake and forgot things. I learned to write everything down. I learned that I need a calendar and timers and reminders. I still have the panic moment when I can't remember a name or where I am supposed to be…or when I ask someone the same question yet again….
So I see Connor not using the habits that I so painstakingly learned….and forgetting homework…and I worry.
It's a challenging age. He is in 5th grade. I can still go in and talk to his teachers. I can still try to teach him that just because you did your homework….it doesn't count unless you turn it in. I can try to help him quit procrastinating and forgetting long term-heavily weighted assignments. But I can see the future….I can't do anything to help him next year. With 7 teachers, he has to be organized and personally responsible. But I'm at a loss for how to help him do that.
I don't ever remember my parents being involved in my school, but I was self motivated….and a flake. I had stress out moments where I realized I couldn't remember something and couldn't find my notes. I have an actual documented memory problem…Although I didn't know it at the time. I remember the panic as I couldn't remember which locker was mine…or what class was next….and this was after going to class for months!
I couldn't understand why everyone else had it so easy and could remember everything. But that fear of having people know that I couldn't remember names, people etc was the motivator for me….I worked so hard so that nobody would know I was broken. I never even told my parents. I just looked like a flake and forgot things. I learned to write everything down. I learned that I need a calendar and timers and reminders. I still have the panic moment when I can't remember a name or where I am supposed to be…or when I ask someone the same question yet again….
So I see Connor not using the habits that I so painstakingly learned….and forgetting homework…and I worry.
